In Part 1 of this post, I explained that if you’re chasing love or seeking validation outside of yourself, you’ll deter the RIGHT man from coming towards you.
Similarly, if you’re in a relationship, not feeling “whole” within yourself will push your partner away on a deep, unconscious level.
We all know that neediness is the OPPOSITE of attraction – and I understand how hard it can be to pull yourself out of “lack” when you’re feeling frustrated because you’re not getting everything you want in your love life.
The problem is, focusing on what you DON’T want creates a “feedback loop” in your subconscious mind. When you focus on something, you’re feeding it back to yourself and you end up drawing it towards you.
This is true whether you’re focusing on something positive or negative, since your subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between what’s “good” or “bad” – it only knows how much energy and attention you’re giving to something.
What you want to do instead is shift your vibe by turning your thoughts away from the problem, and create NEW thoughts that will produce a solution.
Start by getting really clear on what you WANT in your love life. What feelings would you like to feel in your ideal relationship? Write these feelings down, and start focusing on them.
See where you can start making YOURSELF feel this way right now – and create a loving mental atmosphere within you and around you – regardless of your relationship status. This is what attracts (or re-attracts!) the right man to you.
When you’re able to contribute to the fulfillment of your OWN needs, you won’t feel so urgent or needy of someone else’s love and you’ll start to feel more secure within yourself – which makes you incredibly attractive.
When you learn to get the love you’re seeking from INSIDE yourself first, you’ll radiate that out and become irresistible to men who want to be with you just because you’re YOU!
You’ll start naturally and organically drawing the right man in, rather than “pushing” and trying to force your way into his heart.
When you love and accept yourself no matter what happens and choose to think thoughts that make you feel good – the wrong men for you tend to fade away – and the RIGHT man to share your growing sense of love and intimacy will be attracted to you like a magnet!
If you’d like to learn the specific, step-by-step tools to effortlessly attract love and the right man for you, check out my eBook, “Attract The Man You Want” and my “Effortlessly Attract Love Program.”