If you want to attract an amazing high-quality man – or deepen the attraction and intimacy with the man you’re with now – uncovering your unique gifts and USING them in service to your life’s purpose is one of the BEST things you can do to transform your love life forever.
This is easily the #1 thing I did to shift my vibe and allow my love life to become everything I ever dreamed of – so I have a LOT to say about this!
If you’re not using your unique gifts out there in the world, you can go into what I call a “penalty phase” which is quite uncomfortable. There’s a lot of restriction and frustration in that phase.
If you have a certain gift but you don’t use it, you can go through what feels like “chasing your tail.” You’ll feel like you can’t get out of your own way, or can’t seem to “get started.”
This was the story of my life before I discovered my OWN gifts and life’s purpose, and it affected my love life tremendously.
When you’re not embracing your gifts, you’ll often feel lost or inadequate or “left in the dust.” You may even start to reduce the expression of your gifts and get “smaller” within yourself, which leads to an inaccurate self-image and becomes a massive Intimacy Barrier.
We can tend to think that if we deny or make “small” a part of ourselves or don’t acknowledge it, then somehow we’re going to get the love, acceptance, or approval that we want – this is often operating at a deep, unconscious level.
The truth is, when we embrace all of who we are – including the gifts that we may be afraid of – THAT’S when we start to attract everything we want in life AND in love!
This is why uncovering your gifts and committing to your life’s purpose has EVERYTHING to do with your love life!
If you’re not using your unique gifts out there in the world, chances are you’ve rarely been “mirrored” in your life. We can’t be seen and recognized by others for things that we’re not able to recognize in ourselves.
If you’re oblivious to your gifts or you’re not using them in service to your life’s purpose, people aren’t going to “mirror” them back to you.
What happens when people aren’t being “mirrored” is they often forget that they even HAVE their gifts – and they’ll attract people who don’t really “see” them, or who aren’t willing or able to give them what they want in a relationship.
If you’re in a relationship and you’re not embracing and using your gifts, your partner won’t be able to see your gifts either, and you can begin to feel neglected, unappreciated, or misunderstood – and it can start to devolve into one of those lower levels of relationship.
You can also keep yourself very busy in non-intimacy relationship entanglements as a big distraction from your gifts and your OWN life’s purpose. I did this for so much of my life that I know this to be a FACT.
In Part 2 of this post, I’m going to help you discover if you have an intimacy barrier due to not embracing your gifts, and show you what you need to do to start living the life and love story of your dreams!