In the last post, I explained that a little-known important step to attracting everything you want in your love life involves releasing your attachment to the outcome and the result.
If you’re attached to a particular result – if you think things NEED to be a certain way, such as, “I need to be in a relationship by my next birthday” or “I need my boyfriend to propose by the end of the year” – you immediately become attached to a particular result.
When you get attached to the result, it creates fear, resentment, and anger. It creates fear of the thing you DON’T want to happen, and it creates anger and resentment if things aren’t going your way.
Fear, anger, and resentment are very low vibrational emotions, and they shut down your ability to create the life of your dreams.
When things aren’t going your way and you start to feel discouraged and afraid that things aren’t going to work out for you – or you get frustrated thinking that maybe you’re wasting your time – guess what’s happening there? Your attachment to the result is ACTIVATING.
When your attachment to the result gets activated – all that anger, fear, and worry is showing up and shutting you down.
When it comes to your love life, no man wants to think that you’re with him because you NEED something from him – he can pick up on that need and urgency in your vibe and it can destroy the attraction and connection (if you’ve ever heard a man say that he “can’t give you what you want” this may have been what was going on).
Instead, you want to come from a place of gratefulness for the life you ALREADY have – and curiosity about what might lie ahead in your future.
That’s what puts you on the path toward the life you want – and as an added bonus, it puts out a vibe that’s unbelievably attractive!
When you’re coming from a place of gratefulness, abundance, and curiosity – when you’re in a space where no matter what happens you’re going to be ok, and you’re going to make the most of your life and be happy – that’s SO incredibly powerful and attractive, and it makes you FAR more effective in bringing you what you desire.
Those of us who are driven and goal-oriented can often feel attached to the outcome or result, and that can actually work against us. The more we can assume that GOOD things are coming our way, the more we can naturally attract everything we desire in our lives.