A major problem that’s holding you back from where you want to be in your love life is most likely a sense of URGENCY.
Urgency happens when your masculine energy – your inner “knight in shining armor” – is going unemployed.
In other words, when you’re using your masculine energy to try to make something happen in a relationship, rather than using it to work on yourself or save the world – you’re going to feel a sense of urgency in your love life.
You do NOT want your masculine energy to go urgent – it weakens a man’s attraction to you and pushes love and masculine-energy men away!
The solution to urgency is to get your masculine energy doing something meaningful – rather than letting it run you by fear.
Here’s what you can do to start turning this around:
1. Write a list of all the things you could do to make a difference in your own life, and out there in the world.
What if finding peace within YOURSELF is what’s going to make a difference in the world?
2. Write down what you would do differently if you could use your masculine energy to improve your own life and make the world a better place.
Would you breathe more? Would you look at others with more love and compassion? Would you look at YOURSELF with more love and compassion?
This is the job of your masculine energy – to create the space for your feminine energy to just be there and breathe – to simply experience and intuit what’s going on around you – rather than try to “have fun” or “make something happen” on a date or in a relationship.
3. Start noticing how your masculine energy is running your life.
For example, are you always trying to make something happen in your love life? Is your masculine energy not in use – is it making excuses?
4. Ask yourself – what is your masculine energy doing (or NOT doing) that’s showing up in the men you’re meeting out there in the world?
Whatever is going on in your masculine energy inside you, that’s what showing up in the men you’re meeting and attracting.
In other words, there is no one separate from you – there’s just YOU, showing up in different ways.
5. Take a look at how this is going on inside you, and try to start making some connections.
When your masculine and feminine energies are functioning more freely – and the fear is being FELT but not acted on – you won’t feel so urgent about solving things immediately, finding a man and making everything work.
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7 replies to "How To Stop Urgency From Ruining Your Love Life"
“The fear is being felt, but not acted on.” So we can feel fear, but not feel the need to “fix” or “get rid” of it? This is something I have been trying to do, being a problem solver in my everyday life, it’s not the easiest thing!
Exactly! You want to FEEL the full force of your fear, without acting OUT of it. You also want to accept and love your fear – and thank it for trying to protect you – just as you would with all of your other feelings. It feels unnatural at first but gets easier with practice!
Love, Helena
Great contribution, love your blog!
Nice work, looking forward to using more of your information!
This post was really good, hopefully I can find more comparable information.
I felt like this is what happened with me as I needed my man to stepped up and made him choose between us or the other women he was chatting with! Argghhhh.. but I felt disrespected and betrayed.. worst is he chose to bot continue with us as he wasnt ready to commit with me.. ? no sure if he was the problem or me!! So confused
Hi Helena! Thanks for the article and your video! Can you please do a meditation video on how to activate your masculine energy if it’s lying dormant?
Thanks! x