If you’re feeling a sense of LONGING for a man – especially a man who isn’t giving you all the love, attention, and affection you want and deserve – I know exactly how that feels.
If you’re feeling compelled to “go after” a man – you’re in your masculine energy, and that’s never going to work for you! Leaning forward and chasing a man will push him away.
What you want to do instead is the OPPOSITE of “go after” him – you want to lean back and inspire him to pursue YOU. That’s what will build a deep attraction with a man – since men value what they have to work for, just like we do!
Often, the time when a woman feels the most compelled to lean forward is when a man’s energy is NOT coming towards her. If the man you want isn’t calling you or paying attention to you – instead of leaning towards him or “going after” him – you want to lean back and create the space for him to come towards you.
If you’ve made a man “the goal” – you’re going to have to get yourself some new goals that have NOTHING to do with him. In other words, your masculine energy needs something else to do!
Taking your focus completely OFF of a man is what creates the space for him to come towards you.
If a man isn’t paying attention to you, what you want to do is pull your energy off of him. In order to do that, you’re going to have to find some other things to do that will completely absorb you and occupy your time, energy, and attention.
This works wonders if you’re in the same house with a man and he’s ignoring you, or if you’re dating a man and he’s not calling you. Here are some ideas:
♥ Go for a walk.
♥ Paint your nails.
♥ Read a book.
♥ Clean out a drawer.
♥ Go to the gym.
♥ Take a yoga/martial arts/acting/dance/cooking/rock climbing class.
♥ Go shopping.
♥ Take yourself out and start interacting with other men!
♥ Get in touch with your creative side by writing or doing some art. This is a fantastic way to use your energy! Here are some drawings and paintings from an extremely talented client of mine (you may recognize some Rori Raye tools such as “The Rowboat” and “Unzip Your Heart” in these illustrations):
Using your masculine energy for YOURSELF – rather than using it to try to “make something happen” in dating and relationships – is what creates the space for you to be in your feminine energy when you’re with a man, which will make you unbelievably attractive to him!
I’d love to hear about what helps YOU create the space for a man to comes towards you!