confidenceOne very important key to transforming your love life forever involves getting out of your comfort zone and stepping into the unknown.
Shifting your way of “being” to become more open and available is a fantastic way to attract high quality men and get everything you want in life and love.
This can be scary for many women because it makes us feel vulnerable.
If you’re anything like I was when I was single, you may be going on dates with the idea of the RESULT you want to have.
The goal should be going out with the intention of practicing being in your feminine energy and having a good time, and rather than trying to “make something happen” on a date or in a relationship.

You want to say “yes” as often as possible – say “yes” until you have to say “no.” This is about trusting yourself and your boundaries.

Saying you won’t go out with a man unless you think there’s a possibility that he could be “the one” is a mistake. 
We can easily fall into the trap of thinking we need to know who someone is and how they’re going to fit into our lives before we give ourselves the opportunity of the EXPERIENCE of being with them, learning about them, and learning about ourselves in the process.
When we say “yes” in life and in the world, we get MUCH more than if we were to walk around saying “no” to everything. How are we supposed to get what we want if we’re saying “no” to everything around us?

It’s about being in that openness, letting go and releasing our attachment to the result – and saying “yes” to the opportunity and the experience.

Personally, there was a lot I had to learn in order to get to the place where I was ready for an amazing, life-long committed relationship. I see this in many of my clients and in other women I know as well.
For example, most women are pretty bad at receiving. We can feel vulnerable and indebted when a man does something nice for us – we think we need to equalize it and give him just as much. Deep down we may not feel worthy of what it is he has to offer.
Being in the “yes” allows you to practice being a good receiver and being appreciative of the opportunity. We often fall into the trap of saying, “That’s not my ideal… I don’t want that…” It’s important to say “yes” and take yourself through that experience in order to take you to the next better place and the next better match for you.

When we get out of our own way, saying “yes” opens us up to all kinds of possibilities that we can’t even imagine!

When a woman goes into a situation with an idea of exactly what a man “should” do, she’s not in the mode where she’s receiving who he is and what he has to offer.
Practice getting out of your head and out of how you “think it should go” – and into the feeling of, “Is this a man who prioritizes my feelings and does his best to make me happy?”
Saying “yes” is about opening to different parts of yourself that you may not have experienced yet. I’d love to hear about your experiences with this!


    4 replies to "The Key To Transforming Your Love Life Forever"

    • Ben Buckingham

      I like this idea, Helena. Men certainly need to feel the feminine energy in a woman to bring out his masculine energy. I teach this stuff to guys in a sexual context. It is something that “just is”.

      • Helena Hart

        Thank you, Ben! It’s always nice to get a man’s perspective on this. I think it’s great that you teach the masculine side of this to men!
        Love, Helena

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