How To Stop Subconsciously Sabotaging Your Love Life – Part 1
If dating feels like a challenge to you or you’re struggling in your relationship, you may have some subconscious beliefs that are keeping you from getting the love you want.
We hold all of our beliefs at a very deep level, and most of the time we’re not even aware of them – it’s just “programming” that came from early in our lives.
We carry these beliefs around with us into our relationships and the way we relate to men.
Many of these beliefs served to protect us when we were young, but now as adults they’ve become maladaptive if they cause us to push love and good men away.
You may really want something consciously (such as a committed, fulfilling relationship) – but if your subconscious mind is scared of real intimacy, it will start looking for ways to sabotage things.
When your subconscious mind is afraid of what might happen, it will find a way to keep you “safe.”
One type of subconscious belief that many people hold is that they’re not lovable – or that “someone like them” can’t find love or be loved for who they are (this was a big one for me!).
If you have the belief that there’s something wrong with you or that you always mess up your relationships, you’ll never move out of your comfort zone into the life you want.
If this is true for you, you want to work on turning that around by telling yourself a different story – that you ARE lovable exactly as you are!
Some common fears that many people hold in their subconscious mind are the fear that they’re not good enough or the fear that they’re going to get hurt again – or that things aren’t going to work out because they haven’t worked out in the past.
Looking into the rear view mirror this way brings those bad experiences of your past into the present moment.
We as human beings are always in reaction to what’s happened to us in the past, such as the last man who broke your heart.
Your subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between what’s “good” and “bad” (or what’s healthy and unhealthy) – it only knows how much energy and attention you’re giving to something.
Click here to read Part 2 of this post, where I explain exactly how to do this.