How To Stop Subconsciously Sabotaging Your Love Life – Part 1


If dating feels like a challenge to you or you’re struggling in your relationship, you may have some subconscious beliefs that are keeping you from getting the love you want.

We hold all of our beliefs at a very deep level, and most of the time we’re not even aware of them – it’s just “programming” that came from early in our lives.

We carry these beliefs around with us into our relationships and the way we relate to men. 

Many of these beliefs served to protect us when we were young, but now as adults they’ve become maladaptive if they cause us to push love and good men away.

You may really want something consciously (such as a committed, fulfilling relationship) – but if your subconscious mind is scared of real intimacy, it will start looking for ways to sabotage things.

When your subconscious mind is afraid of what might happen, it will find a way to keep you “safe.”

One type of subconscious belief that many people hold is that they’re not lovable – or that “someone like them” can’t find love or be loved for who they are (this was a big one for me!).

If you have the belief that there’s something wrong with you or that you always mess up your relationships, you’ll never move out of your comfort zone into the life you want.

If this is true for you, you want to work on turning that around by telling yourself a different story – that you ARE lovable exactly as you are!

Some common fears that many people hold in their subconscious mind are the fear that they’re not good enough or the fear that they’re going to get hurt again – or that things aren’t going to work out because they haven’t worked out in the past.

Looking into the rear view mirror this way brings those bad experiences of your past into the present moment. 

We as human beings are always in reaction to what’s happened to us in the past, such as the last man who broke your heart.

Your subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between what’s “good” and “bad” (or what’s healthy and unhealthy) – it only knows how much energy and attention you’re giving to something.

Click here to read Part 2 of this post, where I explain exactly how to do this.

If you’re ready to turn your love life around by installing NEW beliefs that will attract the love and relationship you desire, click here to check out The Feminine Art Of Attraction.

    4 replies to "How To Stop Subconsciously Sabotaging Your Love Life – Part 1"

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      • Teresa Steen

        Struggling on right approach


      On July 22,2016 l got back together with my 1st husband who left me and our 3 little children to live his life going from woman to woman and doing his lustful life. Telling me he had changed from doing all those forbidden things. We have been together since 2016 and he keeps telling me he is ED but he has been premiscious with younger women since we got back together. I am lucky to get 2 kisses and 2 hugs a day but he tells me he loves me and wants me to stay with him. It makes me crazy.

    • Debra Holland

      It’s not just a fear; I am scared almost to death.
      I have been widowed since 1977. My husband shot me 3 times, then killed himself. I raised my 3 kids myself. Never even thinking of trying again. Well now I’m 65 yrs. old & very lonely. I think I intentionally mess things up. I have dealt w/most of the repercussions of my past except the fear of trying/succeeding. Any advice or ideas? I am a very young old lady. I don’t want much, just to have someone to play with. If no suggestions I understand. (No hard feelings) This is the 1st time I thought of asking
      Thanks for your time

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