Instant chemistry blows away our best interest sometimes – it messes with our “man-picker” and it works against us.
We tend to choose chemistry over the whole package.
Chemistry alters our perception and causes us to attach meaning to things that are often inaccurate. For example, if we feel instant chemistry with a man, we may assume that he’s available and that he wants a relationship with us – the same kind of relationship that WE want.
This can lead us down the path of creating a whole fantasy in our heads about someone who we know very little about.
Have you ever found yourself obsessing over why a man isn’t calling? Ever analyzed why a man hasn’t followed up after a date? Do you replay conversations over and over in your head, wondering what you could have said differently or done better?
If he’s not paying attention to you, rather than making you want to move towards him – what if his lack of masculine action toward you TURNED YOU OFF? What if it caused you to get bored and lose interest?
What if you could hook up chemistry to when he’s acting loving and wonderful – and moving towards you? The good news is – YOU CAN! I know you can.
You can save yourself from SO much anxiety by simply becoming an observer of what a man DOES.
Men are very simple – they do what they WANT to do, ALL the time. If they’re attracted to you and interested in a relationship, they’ll contact you and ask you out. If they’re not into you or not looking for a relationship, they won’t.
In other words, nothing means ANYTHING unless he’s actively pursuing you. Stop attaching meaning to the chemistry you feel for a man unless he’s showing you with his ACTIONS that he wants to move things forward. This will make things SO much simpler for you!
Reading into everything a man says or trying to “figure him out” is a useless waste of your time and energy. It also creates a whole vibe around you that a man can FEEL – it does the OPPOSITE of attract him, it pushes him away!
You can take all that energy you’ve been using to try to figure him out and use that energy to make YOURSELF happy and create an amazing life for yourself! This will shift your vibe and turn you into a MAGNET for men!
Unlike the superficial kind of “instant chemistry” that makes you feel off-balance, REAL chemistry is something that develops over time – when you build intimacy with someone and feel SAFE with them.