How To Attract Quality Men Using Dating Apps

iphone-app-datingDating apps take the convenience of online dating to a whole new level. But with so many dating apps out there, it’s difficult to know which ones are right for you.
Here’s an explanation of some popular dating apps, as well as some tips on how to use them to attract quality men.


Tinder is a free app that anonymously finds nearby matches and connects you with them if you’re interested in each other. It lets you quickly say yes or no to potential matches by showing you people who are near you, and letting you anonymously “like” them or “pass” on them. If you and a potential match “like” each other, Tinder makes an introduction and lets you text each other through the app, without giving away your real phone number.
To stay in your feminine energy using a dating app like this, I’d suggest “liking” as many potential matches as you want, and then letting the man be the first one to contact you through the app if the two of you “like” each other.

How About We

How About We has you post a date you’d like to go on when you sign up, which a potential match can then “opt in” to by connecting with you and setting up the date. It’s primarily free, but you can upgrade to get special perks. The profile questions on How About We seem to appeal to sophisticated professionals. It’s designed to help you set up dates right from the beginning, rather than chatting with potential matches for weeks before finally meeting up. The profiles consist of personality traits and seem to focus more on compatibility than physical attributes.
When it comes to posting a date that you’d like to go on, I always suggest keeping the first date short – an hour or less is ideal. Pick a public place near you where you feel comfortable – don’t drive far to see a man for a first date. Somewhere where you can walk around and look at things (such as an outdoor shopping area) is perfect, since there’s an intimacy-building aspect to these kinds of activities.


Hinge uses a matching algorithm and it’s “romance graph” to intelligently show you potential matches you’re likely to be compatible with. It pulls your Facebook information to present you with people who have a similar type of job or went to the same kind of college, but it also goes deeper and matches you with people across these boundaries as well. Hinge uses it’s matching algorithm to identify the factors that attract you to potential dates.
In my opinion, real compatibility doesn’t have very much to do with what you have “in common” with a man. With apps like this, I’d suggest giving men a chance if you get a good vibe from them and their energy is coming towards you, regardless of whether or not you have things in common or if they meet all the standards on your “checklist.”

Coffee Meets Bagel

Coffee Meets Bagel introduces you to people who are seeking meaningful relationships. You’ll receive one match per day that’s specifically chosen for you. You have one day to “like” the match or “pass” on them. Coffee Meets Bagel doesn’t tell your potential matches that you “liked” them unless they “liked” you too. When you and a potential match “like” each other, you can text each other securely through the app and your real phone number is not given away.
As with some of these other dating apps, I’d suggest letting the man be the first one to contact you through the app if the two of you “like” each other – so you’re just responding to potential matches, rather than initiating.


OkCupid is a popular free dating app which lets you browse profiles and send messages to potential matches. In my opinion, OkCupid is one of the best dating apps because it’s easy to navigate and it uses algorithms to match you based on personality traits and what you’re looking for in a relationship (it’s also how I met my wonderful husband!). You can browse through local singles and spend time meeting interesting new people who have the qualities you’re looking for.
Having clear, flattering pictures is extremely important when you’re using apps like this. You’ll want at least one picture of your face – where you’re looking at the camera and smiling – and one full-body picture. Changing your main profile picture and uploading a new picture every so often will put you back at the top of the “activity” page and people’s searches. Updating your profile and answering new questions will also do this. The questions on OkCupid are multiple choice, so you can answer them quickly.

Plenty Of Fish

Plenty Of Fish is another free dating app that lets you browse profiles and send messages, while its personalized services match you to people who are interested in the same type of relationship and even suggests local places to meet up. Plenty Of Fish allows you to set up your account so that certain people cannot contact you. For example, if you’re looking for a long-term relationship, anyone looking for a “hook-up” or casual relationship won’t be able to send you a message.
When it comes to writing your profile, I always suggest writing two paragraphs – the first one should be all about you and the second one should be about what you’re looking for – and be sure to translate everything into feeling messages where you can.
I’d love to hear about your experiences using dating apps – and if you have any questions, please don’t hesitate to ask!

3 thoughts on “How To Attract Quality Men Using Dating Apps”

  1. Hi Helena!
    I always listen to your YouTube videos. You’re beautiful inside and out!
    I see this article is from 2014, so I was wondering if you still have the same opinion about these apps. Are them still the best on your list? Which others do you recommend?
    Also, I broke up with my ex a bit over a month ago and I think it would be good for me to make new friends (just friends) and meet new people (not romantically), both men and women. Do you know any good apps to make new contacts?

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