4 Things That Shut Him Down Emotionally (And How To Turn It Around)

I recently recorded a short video on four things that cause men to shut down emotionally, and what to do instead to turn things around so a man naturally feels the desire to come closer and open up to you.
This should be helpful for you no matter where you’re at in your love life:

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7 thoughts on “4 Things That Shut Him Down Emotionally (And How To Turn It Around)”

  1. Your research sounds intriguing, and very helpful. Could it apply when you really aren’t looking for marriage?
    We’re comfortable with fringe benefits. It is what we seek now. (Not that it wouldn’t develop into more, tho rare.)
    The “Make him…” this or that concerns me. Idc 2 make him anything except feel@ ease and pursue his desires, honoring himself and me.
    I had 30 yrs of trying that, no bueno.
    Were now in An approach akin2 “Let it be”, yet still be fascinated with each other’s touch, care, heart, and the crossing of our live’s paths.
    Ps idk how2 share grandbaby pic. He’s on my fb, if you have that. Precious!

  2. ” would you post the link for ” how to make a man feel safe to come close to you ” Thank you so much. I really enjoy the direct open way you speak to us, you work so hard to make things clear. I’m 64 and I haven’t gotten it right yet. I have a man now and have been working hard but still not doing great. I read something that I could use a clarification on. In ” stop doing this you said : A masculine-energy man’s biggest desire is to be with a woman who allows him to do things for her – a woman who’s able to RECEIVE what he has to give! You’ll be the most attractive woman in the world to a man if you lean back and allow him to give to you.
    Does this include gifts? My man has pulled way back on sexual intimacy and instead has started giving me ” stuff “, a mixer, Bose system… I am not a woman who wants expensive stuff, I want him, to feel him, spend
    time with him, be with him, melt into him, know I’m cherished and desired. How can I tell him this ?
    He loves to share, I’m ok with that but lately he is sharing less of himself and giving me stuff instead.
    I miss our closeness a lot. I am still open and welcome him, but inside I am sad and frustrated. Thank you for listening.

    1. OMG! Molly, your posted comment is so parallel to my own relationship. I’m almost 57 and have been remarried to my husband for 8 years we’ve been together for a total of 25 years. I’ve never cheated on my husband he says he hadn’t either however he has completely withdrawn from me sexually and any type of intimacy. Sex one time in 5 years once a year for 2 years prior to that. yes he has health issues but hasn’t bothered much to correct his condition because he was continuing to have self gratification through watching porn in the meantime leaving me over here all alone and not giving or receiving any pleasure. Now that I’ve finally let him know he crossed boundaries along time ago he wants to reconnect now that I’m no longer interested in doing much of anything with him in any capacity. I feel stuck.

    2. Hi Molly. I wonder if it’s a “love language” issue…? He feels he’s giving to you with “gifts”, and you prefer quality time & physical touch. Sounds like an opportunity for a conversation!

  3. Hey Helena, it’s corona time and I just started seeing someone before we were all put into isolation. I am feeling disappointed that he doesn’t call or text or do any FaceTime videos as I thought we’d use this time to get to know each other more. We managed to see each other once or twice during this period when we felt it was safe to visit. But I did somehow bring up that I feel I’m getting mixed messages or that I’m confused where we stand (I didn’t do it very directly.) when we’re apart he texts me almost every day or every other day but the convos are short. When we’re together we have a lot of fun and get along! Finally I sent him a voice note explaining that I’m confused where we stand and I need more communication. He said he feels he’s disappointing me because he just can’t give more right now and that corona and being stuck at home is really affecting him and this is all he can do (I know he does zoom calls with friends etc. and is still active at home with brewing beer or cooking elaborate meals. It’s not that he’s depressed. Yet he just can’t give ME more energy right now.) it’s been about 6 dates and I don’t know if it’s corona, or his feelings towards me or I’m expecting too much. I want to just back off but how can I course correct any demanding energy or “urgency” I just put out there? I know leaning back is important which I’m practicing now but any course correction at this point?

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