Here’s a letter from Julia, a member of my Effortlessly Attract Love Program, who’s discovering that masculine energy is about what a man DOES and how he treats her – and that almost any man can “step up to the plate” when given the chance. This is an incredible success story that we can all learn from. Here’s what Julia has to say…
Julia’s Letter:
Ever since I started following Helena’s and Rori Raye’s teachings, I’ve been more conscious of the dance of masculine and feminine energy, and I’ve learned to willingly cultivate my own femininity and be in my “girl energy” around men.
I understood that this is what attracts masculine men, and what I didn’t know was that it can also AWAKEN and bring out the masculine energy in almost any man.
I met a new man, and this time, so far I’ve done everything RIGHT. I had made a profile on a local dating site, and couple of months ago a very nice young gentleman found me.
I made a point of leaning back, being in my feminine energy, and letting him initiate everything. I had to pay attention to how I was behaving, and still, it felt really good. And it worked! I trusted it would work, but I never imagined it would work THIS well.
This guy describes himself as the quiet, shy, non-assertive type – and yet, with me, he was incredibly masculine and assertive and really went for it (and he was surprised to discover this side of himself!).
He planned all the dates, he paid, he made the reservations, he picked the places, he carried my stuff, he dealt with the cab drivers, he sent me romantic texts in between dates, he initiated every single kiss, and more…
All because I let him, because I showed him respect, because I was able to receive what he provided, because I didn’t interrupt him, and because I consciously created the space for him to be masculine and take charge.
It went really well, and I felt very happy (and I made sure to tell him that and show appreciation). It felt incredible to have all this energy coming towards me, and to know that a “masculine man” doesn’t need to look like the macho Bruce Willis type. 🙂
What I recently discovered is that masculine energy isn’t something that I can recognize just by looking at a man.
Masculine energy, instead, comes up in what he DOES, how he treats me, how he relates to me – and that’s not only a characteristic of the man in and of himself, but a characteristic of the interaction between me and him.
In other words, it’s less about “finding” a masculine man out there and being feminine around him – it’s about me being feminine to begin with, and allowing the masculine energy to awaken in the man in front of me.
Right now, after the experience with this wonderful guy, I’m inclined to think that any healthy-minded man can be masculine, if the woman stands firm in her femininity and just provides the space for him to be masculine and take charge and sweep her off her feet.
So far, it’s really worked for me! It feels thrilling, and also a little scary because it’s so new, and because it’s so different than what I was used to up until now. This time I know I’m on the right track, so I’ll do my best to lean back and hold the space and smile and be appreciative and just enjoy all the time and effort he’s investing in me.
He’s planning a trip for the two of us now! I’m letting him plan everything, and he’s so happy to be able to provide this for me! Isn’t this delightfully amazing? Thank you, Helena, for teaching us all how to do it. 🙂
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9 replies to "How To Awaken A Man’s Masculine Energy"
Ah, feels so good to see this up here. Thank you for everything, Helena, and I hope it helps the women reading it. 🙂
Thank YOU for sharing this inspiring story, Julia! I love hearing about all the amazing success you’re having with the tools!
Love, Helena
Ooh I love this! I’m starting to date again after being out of the dating scene for a long time. I feel inspired reading this, thank you!
Awesome! I’ve had similar experiences too, now that I’m starting off on the right foot in my feminine energy when I start to date someone. It’s night and day from what I used to experience with men! 🙂
Hi, is it possible for the man to be unable to keep this up despite the woman remaining in her feminine energy? i practiced this w my boyfriend when we met and it really worked…for awhile! He fell head over heals for me. The problem is that he cannot sustain it. He relaxes and expects ME to care take of him, figure out what he feels, and basically pulls on me energetically to mother and lead. I usually let him know i am feeling neglected and unloved and then he steps it up for a short while, to then slip right back to the other mode. We have been together 2 years & I am so exhausted from resisting this pull! He has life long issues with depression and he doesnt take the best care of himself. My life long pattern is to settle for crumbs! I really dont want this anymore, but when i read these things here, i start thinking it’s all my fault for not leaning back enough!
Hi Michelle,
Great question! Please don’t beat yourself up over this – you didn’t do anything wrong! If a man can’t “keep this up” as you put it, it’s possible he may be more of a feminine-energy man when it comes to relationships. This type of man might be able to step up for a little while, but then will usually “hit a wall” in terms of what he’s capable of when it comes to taking masculine action in a relationship.
In regards to taking crumbs from a man, perhaps this post will be helpful for you:
http://helenahartcoaching.com/are-you-taking-crumbs-from-a-man/
Love, Helena
We have been together 2.5 yrs, he swept me off my feet 9 days after meeting me, and I was suddenly in a relationship, living w him. After 1 yr he proposed. We are engaged. I found out 5 months ago that he has been monitoring my phone conversations, and has access to my computer to read everything I do from it! He loves me completely and totally, he has denied that he monitors my phone, when I brought it up! I have waited my whole life for the right man, and this is what he does to me? I am very disillusioned and feel violated and I am quite angry too. He gets defensive easily, and I am very uncomfortable w confrontation. What do you say about this? Thanks for your help.
Hi Tory,
So sorry to hear that you’re going through this right now! First, I would get clear on whether or not this is a dealbreaker for you. There are no hard and fast “rules” around this, except for the ones you make up for yourself. There are some women who would be willing to stay and work through this, and others who would not.
Ask yourself if you want to leave this man (if this is something you believe will continue), or if you’d like to try talking to him to see where he was coming from, share how you feel with him and see if this is something you could work out.
The key here is trusting YOURSELF so you’ll be oragnically led to make the right decisions around this. Trusting your own instincts and intuition will serve you better than anything else.
Love, Helena