Here’s an inspiring success story from an amazing woman who met the man of her dreams while she was in a seemingly hopeless place (and actually pregnant with another man’s child!).
Here’s what she has to say…
I would like you to share my story with other women so that it helps them to realize that there is always hope, no matter how hard it may seem and no matter what the circumstance is.
My story starts two years ago where I was just doing what every normal women does when she’s in love with a man – I would make his lunch, call him, care for him, fuss over him and chase him all the time.
He sometimes gave me the affection I wanted in return, however something just never felt like it was ever going to move forward. He would tell me how he wanted to make plans with me in the future but never actually put this into action.
I moved to be closer to him. I did everything I could to be closer to this man. I continued to pursue him and I would wait and wait and chase him again. I spent two years trying to make this man see how much I loved him, how much I desperately wanted to live with him and marry him.
I started to read Rori Raye’s online advice and also spoke to Helena Hart shortly after that. I started to put some of this into action. This man still did not budge because I realized I was still trying too hard.
Then one day everything changed. I found out I was pregnant. This man changed completely but not for the better. He was not willing and ready to have a baby with me. He wanted me to have an abortion. I stood up to him and said no.
Despite all of this I still chased him. I was desperate to make him see that I was the one for him, especially because I was carrying his child. Unfortunately he was still holding back.
I lost all my self confidence and lost myself too. I decided to take action. I started to look at all of Helena’s advice and online correspondence. I decided that I was going to build up my self esteem again, and I finally stopped chasing this man.
In the meantime I decided to go on a dating website. I have no idea what I was thinking but just decided to go on there and see what happened. I started to chat with a few people.
In January of 2016 I met up with a lovely man from the dating site. I told him I was 2 months pregnant and that I had no intention of dating. He was happy to stay friends. We met for coffees and chats. He spent a lot of time trying to help me and he was always there for me throughout my pregnancy.
I continued to work on my self esteem. I did a little work on myself every week, whether it be wearing something pretty, spending time with my friends and family or meeting new people.
I started to carry myself with confidence, and to be the feminine person that I am. I was concentrating so much on myself and my unborn baby that I started to forget about the man who had hurt me so much!
My daughter was born in July of 2016. I started dating the man I’d met online two months after she was born, and it’s been the most natural, flowing relationship I have ever had!
We’ve now being dating for 7 months and he still continues to do so much for me! Within these 7 months he has been commuting to see us (I had moved to be near my family as I thought I was going to be a single mom). He has changed jobs and we are now living together.
My intention was to try and get my ex to commit to me, but now it’s clear I was not meant to be with him.
When I met my new man HE was was the one doing the chasing! I let him care for me and look after me – and even though I felt scared at the beginning because I didn’t want to get hurt, I decided to give him a chance and I fell in love with him.
I still have to remind myself sometimes to step back and let him take the lead, and he continuously worships the ground I walk on.
Everything is moving forward naturally and effortlessly. I am SO happy! There is no chasing, no mind games. For the first time in my life I can just be me.
Thank you so much Helena and Rori for your help! I hope that other women will find comfort with my story and it will help inspire them.
Lots of love,
Chantelle
8 replies to "How One Woman Went From Feeling Hopeless To Finding The Man Of Her Dreams (And How You Can, Too!)"
Wow what an amazing story, thanks for sharing!! 🙂
No problem, I am glad that you enjoyed reading my story. Lots of love.
This is so inspiring! I’m in a somewhat similar place right now (starting over again after a break up where I chased him and he wasn’t fighting for me or doing anything to keep me) so this came at the perfect time for me. It feels great to hear that finding a good man IS possible when you know what you deserve and stick to that.
Hi Tamara, there is always hope! We all have the perfect person waiting for us. I know that sounds so cheesy, but its true. I have gone from one relationship to another not realising that all I had to do was such a simple thing, to just take a back seat and love yourself again, to also ensure that you stay in your feminine energy. I still have to tell myself to do this. The most important thing is to never chase someone. The man needs to be the one doing the chasing. Which we tell ourselves all the time but we fall into this chasing trap and become too emotionally caught up with the man that we are chasing and we forget to focus on ourselves. I hope that you are okay. lots of love
Congrats Chantelle, I loved reading your story!! <3
Thank you so much Sonia!
I’m in a similar place… The hard part. Five months pregnant with a man’s child who no longer wants to be with me. He was eager to get married until I got pregnant and since then he’s kind of bailed. For the first eight months of our relationship he pursued me vigorously, talked about marriage pretty much every other day. And since then, it has changed. And because I wanted so badly to be a family, and intact family, I started trying so hard to make things work. it’s only made things worse, I end up feeling less and less good about myself and he is less and less respectful toward me. I went on a few dates at one point but I didn’t feel up for it. Now I am 5 months pregnant and as crazy as it sounds, I feel like I need to try dating again, if nothing else just to remember that I’m a beautiful woman with or without the father of my child wanting to be a part of our family. I went on a lunch date today. I have 2 dates tomorrow. If I’m honest, I don’t feel excited about any of it but I feel like I need to do something proactive to move past the fantasy that the father of my baby, myself, and my little girl on the way are going to be a family. I heard of this blog from Helena. Thank you for your inspiring post. It’s just what I need right now.
Hi Amy
Its great that you are getting yourself out there and that you are trying to move on from the hurt that you have had. Dating is one way of building up your self confidence but the most important thing to do before you date anyone is to ensure that you are confident in yourself first. The key is to feel happy and content with yourself. I know that at the moment that is a very hard thing to do because you are feeling very emotional and at times lost. I know how this feels. I would say that meeting other men is a great start but make sure you are comfortable with this.
Yes, you are a beautiful women and your baby is going to be so loved. I would say focus on yourself and your unborn baby. Look at the online advise from Helena and Rori and literally just focus on yourself. I know that you have taken those first steps to do this because you are putting yourself out there, but it does take some time to put all the advise into practise.
I will give you an example of what I did. Every day I would make sure I wore something pretty, I ensured that I always had a smile on my face. I walked around with confidence. It took some getting used to because when your self confidence is low, you have to build it back up again. Being pregnant does make you feel like you cant be sexy and beautiful, but this is not the case. You are beautiful, confident and men will notice that. The first thing a man will notice is how you carry yourself. You mentioned that the more you tried with this man the more he took a step back. Now its time for you to take a step back, enjoy your pregnancy, because being pregnant is beautiful. You are beautiful! Tell yourself that everyday! You will attract the right man. It may not happen as fast as you would like but, this is because you need to take some time to do things just for you. YOU are the most important priority right now. The right man will come along and he will not be able to get enough of you. Things will change in time.
I highly recommend using Helena and Roris material advise.
I wish you all the best and I really hope you are ok. I know exactly how you are feeling.
Lots of love