Here’s what she has to say…
I would like you to share my story with other women so that it helps them to realize that there is always hope, no matter how hard it may seem and no matter what the circumstance is.
My story starts two years ago where I was just doing what every normal women does when she’s in love with a man – I would make his lunch, call him, care for him, fuss over him and chase him all the time.
He sometimes gave me the affection I wanted in return, however something just never felt like it was ever going to move forward. He would tell me how he wanted to make plans with me in the future but never actually put this into action.
I moved to be closer to him. I did everything I could to be closer to this man. I continued to pursue him and I would wait and wait and chase him again. I spent two years trying to make this man see how much I loved him, how much I desperately wanted to live with him and marry him.
I started to read Rori Raye’s online advice and also spoke to Helena Hart shortly after that. I started to put some of this into action. This man still did not budge because I realized I was still trying too hard.
Then one day everything changed. I found out I was pregnant. This man changed completely but not for the better. He was not willing and ready to have a baby with me. He wanted me to have an abortion. I stood up to him and said no.
Despite all of this I still chased him. I was desperate to make him see that I was the one for him, especially because I was carrying his child. Unfortunately he was still holding back.
I lost all my self confidence and lost myself too. I decided to take action. I started to look at all of Helena’s advice and online correspondence. I decided that I was going to build up my self esteem again, and I finally stopped chasing this man.
In the meantime I decided to go on a dating website. I have no idea what I was thinking but just decided to go on there and see what happened. I started to chat with a few people.
In January of 2016 I met up with a lovely man from the dating site. I told him I was 2 months pregnant and that I had no intention of dating. He was happy to stay friends. We met for coffees and chats. He spent a lot of time trying to help me and he was always there for me throughout my pregnancy.
I continued to work on my self esteem. I did a little work on myself every week, whether it be wearing something pretty, spending time with my friends and family or meeting new people.
I started to carry myself with confidence, and to be the feminine person that I am. I was concentrating so much on myself and my unborn baby that I started to forget about the man who had hurt me so much!
My daughter was born in July of 2016. I started dating the man I’d met online two months after she was born, and it’s been the most natural, flowing relationship I have ever had!
We’ve now being dating for 7 months and he still continues to do so much for me! Within these 7 months he has been commuting to see us (I had moved to be near my family as I thought I was going to be a single mom). He has changed jobs and we are now living together.
My intention was to try and get my ex to commit to me, but now it’s clear I was not meant to be with him.
When I met my new man HE was was the one doing the chasing! I let him care for me and look after me – and even though I felt scared at the beginning because I didn’t want to get hurt, I decided to give him a chance and I fell in love with him.
I still have to remind myself sometimes to step back and let him take the lead, and he continuously worships the ground I walk on.
Everything is moving forward naturally and effortlessly. I am SO happy! There is no chasing, no mind games. For the first time in my life I can just be me.
Thank you so much Helena and Rori for your help! I hope that other women will find comfort with my story and it will help inspire them.
Lots of love,