When you’re with a man, are you looking to him as HOLDING something that you want? Like he’s holding the key to YOUR happiness?
Next time you’re with a man, really notice – when you look at him, do you really see HIM, or do you only see what you WANT from him?
Notice if you find yourself thinking about how much better your life would be if your love life was “on track.” See if you can catch yourself when you’re looking to a man to make everything – including YOU – feel complete.
There are many reasons why we look to others to fix what’s wrong in our lives. Sometimes the unmet needs from our childhood are so great that we’re constantly looking to someone else to fulfill them.
But these needs often run so deep that another person would not be capable of fulfilling them for us – so we need to learn how to meet those needs for ourselves.
Or, you may be so busy trying to please others all the time that you never learned how to make YOURSELF happy. Sound familiar?
If you’re anything like I was – when you’re with a man, you may find yourself frantically racking your brain and trying everything you can to make him love you and “close the deal” so that your life will finally be “complete.”
It’s this energy that pushes a man away. No matter how hard you try to “play it cool,” men are extremely sensitive to this and will feel it in your vibe.
This needy vibe will either repel him from the beginning, or keep the relationship from moving forward – where the connection just isn’t strong enough to make him fall in love and feel devoted to you forever.
The good news is – creating this kind of attraction is SO much easier than you think! It involves getting out of that mindset where a man holds the key to your happiness – and putting the key in your OWN hands.
It’s about discovering what it is that would make you happy and learning how to meet your own needs. In other words, stop waiting for a man to fulfill your dreams and start making your OWN dreams come true.
Once you do this, the man you’re with now will “snap-to” and see you in a completely new way – or if you’re single, the right kind of men will start showing up!
So how do you do this? If it feels daunting, start with baby steps. Make a list of things that would make you happy. Write down the things you’ve been waiting to do or accomplish until your love life gets “on track.” Write out a plan to start making these dreams come true for yourself right now.
Waiting for your love life to improve before accomplishing these goals may actually be what’s holding you back in your relationships.
Getting your masculine energy in gear this way – rather than using it to make something happen in your relationship – will make all the difference in the world for you.
Once you become the kind of woman who knows how to make herself happy, you will attract the kind of man who wants to make you happy – and who is happiest when he is actively MAKING you happy!